Online dating: Does It Destroy Real Love?
Scientists have learned that online dating isn’t the key to have a romantic long term relationship. And yes, there are scientists of love.
I know that an Online dating blog isn’t exactly the place where you’d expect to read an article about how much online dating is destroying “real love.” There have been some recent articles proving that online dating really is bad for finding true love. Researchers have been taking a look into it because of the recent hype of online dating and it is the second most popular way of finding the love of your life (arguably.)
The studies show that one in five heterosexual relationships are born through the online dating scene. It goes up to three out of five if you look at the LGBT couples. An article claims that the reason why online dating isn’t the best way to find true love is because most users are only looking for sexual intercourse in this online dating sites and not a honest date, let alone a long term relationship.
The same article points out that in today’s society is just is considered as another way of entertainment and leisure and it has changed everyone’s view on marriage and love. In today’s society pleasure is more important than love. Sociologist Jean-Claude Kaufman calls online dating sites as the “hypermarket for sex” because people use it for quick gratification rather than it’s intended use.
While online dating has the front of “selling” love, in reality most people actually just use it to look for sex. And “love and sex” are two different things and should never be confused, but that is the case with online dating sites.
Another article suggests that online dating is turning its users into people who are never satisfied and just keep trying to get something more. It claims that online dating makes people greedy by giving us the idea that someone better is always right there for the picking. The article also points out that online dating also makes people more picky and judgemental and even sex crazy.
So that being said, are we just doomed to only have online encounters that will only give us our sexual needs and not our emotional fill? Well I think the answer is no. We just have to aware of the reasons why others are also on there, we have to be careful of our own behavior so we wouldn’t send off wrong signals, and we need to put in work into a relationship, because you shouldn’t be complacent in thinking that there is always some new waiting around the corner. Remember, it doesn’t mean that there is no hope of finding real love in online dating, trust me, it worked for me.